​Does acting peacefully or violently transform me into a peaceful or violent person?

Contribution by Isabel Hernández Negrín, Las Palmas, Canary Islands, Spain.

There are external acts that are peaceful or violent, but we can also act without apparent external violence and not be at peace inside.  Even when we want to encourage some kind of virtue we lack, we often find great difficulty in doing so and what we do is hold back and repress the impulse.  Whenever we impose something on ourselves, the result involves friction and tension that here we will call violence.  Truly peaceful conduct, can only be the result of a conscientious process within us that allows us to see where our inner violence comes from.  And all of this, without criticising ourselves, without wanting to alter anything (wanting to change would involve continuing to be violent).  It will be necessary to put a few neurons to work to observe our impulses and where the tension originates, without repressing or punishing ourselves, but treating ourselves with affection, because when we generate violence within us, it is very easy, and even natural, that this violence surfaces in our behaviour.  

Sometimes, it does not appear in the form of physical aggression, but in wounding comments, scorn, demands, a lack of affection, judgements and prejudices, etc.

External acts in themselves do not make us peaceful or violent, it is what we carry inside us that makes us violent or peaceful.   

Whenever we force ourselves to be something that we are not, we create internal violence.  Wanting to follow an ideal, certain beliefs or ideologies can also be a bearer of violence.

However, if you do not pursue or dream of a purpose that promises you a future reward, your inner self becomes calm and is grateful for the absence of tension and compulsion.

Could you observe how this works in you?