Is my life affected by the fact that the Judgements and Evaluations that determine my emotional decisions arise Automatically?
Commentary by José Parés Pérez, Concepción, Chile.
There are two ways of behaving in life that establish two different ways of living. One of these ways is characterised by our impulsiveness. An impulsive person is one who allow their emotional decisions to arise automatically, without any control, based on the judgements and valuations that they perceive. An impulsive person will have lots of opportunities to regret their actions each time they affect not only themselves by destroying their chances of peace and harmony, but also severely affect the lives of other people. This is particularly so if they consider the futility of their reactions. Neither we nor those who feel the impact of the reaction, even if the judgements may contain something of value, will gain the least benefit from this behaviour. On the contrary the impulsive person will be surrounded by people who havea tendency to avoidance. The other way of living is that of someone who, on perceiving the fact that judgements and valuations might produce a reality that is at variance with the truth, in being aware of their reactions, decides not to allow themselves to judge or value what they perceive and continues with their life not allowing what they perceive to trouble them since their priorities are different.
It does not mean that they do not care, it means that their behaviour prioritises harmony, consistency and peace of mind above everything.
Attention to the present at every moment they live allows them to continue with their life although the reality might seem troubling to them.
They do not avoid reality.
Their perception is a reality, but their handling of it does not include judgements or blame. It is what there is.
Maintain your internal and external harmony, act in consistency with your own values, if applicable, and keep your peace of mind. In fact our behaviour normally falls somewhere between the two extremes.
The most important thing is that we are able to decide whether or not we notice when we get into the habit of judging and blaming others.
Maybe yours is not a violent reaction towards the reality you perceive in others, but if you do something, even if you do not express it but just think it, it is already affecting your own life because you are rejecting or resisting the reality that you are obliged to live and that always contributes to suffering or at the very least malaise.