What is the feel of emotions like?
Commentary by José Parés Pérez, Concepción, Chile.
This is incredible to you when you see it written or you listen to it. But if you stop to think about it for a while you will realise that it is very real: WE DO NOT KNOW HOW TO ENJOY WHAT OUR SENSES OFFER US. You nearly always pay attention to the first mouthful of an exquisite dish, but the following ones no longer arouse such interest; you walk through an exhibition of beautiful pictures looking for one that will have an impact on you, you pass over the others without observing the details that the painter may have tried to show you or what the picture might convey; on tasting a fine wine you enjoy the first sip, but then you no longer pay attention to the rest since you are usually caught up in something else. In short, we are attracted by the novelty of emotions but we do not enjoy them fully. Some of the emotions we experience are accompanied by mutual pleasure because we experience them when more than one person is involved: a hug, a caress, a kiss. These experiences are a language in which we are communicating to someone else. All of the examples in which we perceive sensations that produce pleasant emotions in us, whether they are individual or mutual, are occasions to enjoy that moment in our lives.
Nearly always, not to say always, those represent moments when you are in harmony, you act in a way that is consistent with what you feel and you maintain and demonstrate your peace of mind. Those are the moments you should treasure. The same thing happens if you pay attention to whatother people perceive that you feel for them.
Evoking pleasure in someone else is a gift that you can only convey through the truth of what you feel. The moments in which my wife says “I love you” are gems that I treasure. We cannot spend our lives basking in what we like or enjoying what we feel.
However, they are moments that exemplify the fact that every perception gained by paying attention can change our way of life. Living is an art and there is another way of living that is different from the pursuit and urgency of gaining time, money, power, prestige or success.
And this approach can be learnt. Cherish what matters. I am learning that living life requires a much higher level of intelligence than that achieved by those we regard as geniuses. It is about a creative intelligence that produces moments in which we really succeed in living
The rest is routine.