Can we teach our experiences?

Contribution by Isabel Hernández Negrín, Las Palmas, Canary Islands, Spain.

It occurs to me that this may be related to the saying: ”To walk a mile in someone else’s shoes.”

There is something of this, because we cannot understand what we have not felt with the whole of our body.

If we do not experience things personally, it is very difficult for us to understand them. It would be like explaining the beauty of the landscape to a person who cannot see, or a tune to a deaf person.

They would make something of the information, but of course it would not be such a complete and direct experience,

Once when one of my children was playing near me with a cigarette lighter, I told him that he might burn himself and it would hurt, but in the end, like any child trying to conquer the world, he continued with the game.

I did not say anything more to him, I took the cigarette lighter, lit it and passed it quickly over his hand.

He understood instantly what I had tried to explain. Nor did he cry, he was surprised by the experience. An experience is worth more than a thousand words. When we do not have direct experience of something, we only have beliefs, assumptions and ideas. That is why it is so difficult for us to get to know ourselves, because we have beliefs, assumptions and ideas about ourselves and we try to understand or get to know ourselves through them. Theory is good when it is built on a foundation of direct experience, but when it is not, it is only words, which although they sound reasonable, essentially do not tell us anything.

Experience is much more than words which are much more closely related to thinking. Allow yourself to feel with the whole of your body and without words. Nobody can experience things for you and it would be a shame to wait in vain for someone to explain things to you. Nobody can explain an experience to you.