Do I see myself as I am?

Remarks by José Parés Pérez. Concepción, Chile.

We all have a brain that works constantly under the requirement of consuming the minimum amount of energy without failing to do what it must. We have to perceive everything we can perceive since our survival and growth are tied to this brain.

However, the quantity of information entering our brains from outside of and from within us is enormous and accordingly, we’ve learned to select only a part of it and to discard everything we consider unnecessary. As soon as we form an idea of what we’re perceiving, we stop perceiving new information and invent, based on what we already know about the topic, the rest of the missing pieces. From our mother’s womb, we begin to meet people (our mother) and, once we’re born, many other humans.

Our grand conclusion while we grow is that “I’m also one of those.” We paint a picture of ourselves very early and we retouch it very little, if at all, during the rest of our lives. We feel permanently “ourselves” on the inside and out, and we accept how we are because that’s easier and more comfortable.

What we don’t know, because we don’t place our attention upon it, is that in reality, we haven’t actually accepted ourselves; and we suffer because we resist ourselves every time something about us is unpleasant or we’re forced to recognize that we aren’t how we’d like to be.

Getting to know ourselves by intentionally placing our attention on what we feel is the source of information that leads to the harmony, coherence, and calm that we search for in life.