Does clinging to resentment transform me into a victim?
Commentary by José Parés Pérez, Concepción, Chile.
What do we call resentment?
It is an intense malaise born of a situation that we disliked in some way and that we keep in our thoughts.
I am the one who decided, almost without realising it and without clearly assessing the situation that motivated my dislike and whether it is really as important as I am making it out to be.
This assessment is exaggerated if I treat what happened as being more important than my inner peace at the present moment.
You should realise that you are exchanging your peace of mind for the memory of something that in itself does not have any value.
In other words, I have become a victim of myself because of resentment about what happened.
What sense can there be in keeping alive the sensation of something that annoyed us?
I cannot imagine, unless it is an attempt at self-harm or at clinging to the feeling of being a victim. If that were the situation, or something similar to it, then the best approach would be to pay attention to what we are doing since the best way to begin to put an end to this kind of malaise is to realise where we are going wrong. And therefore, as we take an interest in ourselves this tendency will start to fade.